Lesson Learned #14:?The way to move past an emotion is to first allow yourself to fully feel it. Only then can you let it go.
Simple to understand. But hard to do.
Much of our mind, and most of our culture, is designed to distract from feeling of emotions
(h/t Alice Miller)
Lesson Learned #16:?A shaman asked me, “How would your perspective change if you knew for fact you’d picked your life?”
It’s a frame that immediately changes how I see my life. Every problem is now a challenge there for me to solve in order to unlock more of my life.
True or not, it doesn’t matter for this exercise. It’s a simple way for me to reframe problems. To move from annoyance and pessimism to excitement and optimism.
Lesson Learned #17:?When creating your brand, the law of attraction cannot exceed the law of repulsion. You must choose who to lose. If you do not choose who to repel, you cannot choose who to attract.
(h/t Roy H Williams)
Lesson Learned #19: Giving advice doesn’t work. You can explain what you did. Or ask a question. Or tell a story. Maybe point to the way.
People understand what they figure out themselves. Lecturing and telling what to do don’t work.
It took me 44 years to get. And I still have to re-learn this on many days.
Lesson Learned #20: Self-care is hard for me. I’ve found this works: for everything I do, I ask, “Would I do this with a million-dollar thoroughbred I owned?” Helps me consciously add beneficial behaviors, and most importantly, helps limit being too hard on myself.
(h/t Joe Polish)